I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, tell me ten things I don’t already know, and make me laugh. I don’t care what you look like, just turn me on. And if you can do that, I will follow you on bloody stumps through the snow. I will nibble your mukluks with my own teeth. I will do your windows. I will care about your feelings. Just have something in there.
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Perfection

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Def Poetry Jam: Shihan

This never gets old so I shall post it again and again.

Breaking Upwards (2009) 

Watched this last night on Netflix Instant…loved it. Watch it. Love it too.

Synopsis:

‘Breaking Upwards’ explores a young, real-life New York couple who, four years in and battling codependency, decide to intricately strategize their own break up. Based on an actual experiment devised by director/actor Daryl Wein and actress Zoe Lister-Jones, the film loosely interprets a year in their lives exploring alternatives to monogamy, and the madness that ensues. An uncensored look at young love, lust, and the pangs of codependency, ‘Breaking Upwards’ follows its characters as they navigate each others’ emotions across the city they love. It begsProxy-Connection: keep-alive Cache-Control: max-age=0 he question: is it ever possible to grow apart together?

Weighing the Options: Is Changing Your Name After Marriage Still Necessary?

I was just having this conversation with a friend the other day. I’m still on the fence. As women we’re programmed to wait for the day we can take our mates last name but that doesn’t seem so pressing to me anymore. In this new era of public identity despite being a public figure I almost feel like my name is my brand of sorts. People know my name. From a professional point of view I’ve missed the boat of changing my name (professionally, I toyed with it for a while) so if I were to get married within the next 10 years why change it? 

This article stands more on the feminism, “loss of identity” perspective. I see it more as if I don’t have to, why bother. Maybe I’d change it on paper but still go by my maiden name. My name is far too long to throw another name on with a hyphen. 

Plenty of time to ponder plenty of choices…

for women who are ‘difficult’ to love.

you are a horse running alone
and he tries to tame you
compares you to an impossible highway
to a burning house
says you are blinding him
that he could never leave you
forget you
want anything but you
you dizzy him, you are unbearable
every woman before or after you
is doused in your name
you fill his mouth
his teeth ache with memory of taste
his body just a long shadow seeking yours
but you are always too intense
frightening in the way you want him
unashamed and sacrificial
he tells you that no man can live up to the one who
lives in your head
and you tried to change didn’t you?
closed your mouth more
tried to be softer
prettier
less volatile, less awake
but even when sleeping you could feel
him travelling away from you in his dreams
so what did you want to do love
split his head open?
you can’t make homes out of human beings
someone should have already told you that
and if he wants to leave
then let him leave
you are terrifying
and strange and beautiful
something not everyone knows how to love.

by warsan shire

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Today is officially wedding day.

& OMG. <3

that is the BADDEST wedding video that i have ever seen. #blacklove


<3 it. I need someone with this camera at my wedding (one day).

I’m so in love. I want this someday<3

love black love! a must see!

*sniffle* I love it!

Not gonna lie, I cried my way through this whole damn video. Facking awesome sauce. True love FTW, always & forever.

 that was beautimous.

So this is beautiful. That’s clearly the general consensus but man oh man, this is grand. They lost me at the Keyshia Cole song but the visual is still lovely.

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In Re: to the Steve Harvey/CNN clip

  • J: i dont disagree
  • Me: u don't disagree but u don't agree?
  • J: i wouldn't say 99.9% but i would agree with 80%
  • Me: but i can't imagine even a possible 80% of my male friends as more than just friends and i'd say they'd agree. straight male friends.
  • J: u cant imagine. that's the key. u have a womans mind. as soon as a man meets u, he already had sex with u 3 different ways in his mind

Steve Harvey says men are “incapable of having female friends.”

I wonder how men feel about having him as their self-appointed spokesperson. I firmly disagree with this foolish statement unless 99.9% of my straight male friends want to prove me wrong (which I highly doubt). What does that say about you as a man that you can’t handle having a female friend without any sexual expectations?

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